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family recovery coaching

Who Is Family Recovery Coaching For?

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Often, when people start family recovery coaching, they do so to change the addict and, indeed, coaching is a great place to learn new ways to relate to and communicate with the addict. But the most important relationship you will work on in coaching is the one with yourself. By shifting your own way of thinking and looking at the world, you will make a tremendous difference in your own life and potentially that of your addict. The recovery path is not without its obstacles, but it is one full of rewards.

Family Recovery Coaching is an ongoing interactive partnership designed to help clients find a way to live their lives regardless of their loved ones choices and at the same time learn how they can be their loved one's best chance of a successful recovery outcome. It is NOT counseling or therapy. Through education about addiction and together with tools and skills to help you, you will learn how to make healthier choices which will contribute to the addict's recovery rather than their addiction. Like life coaching, it is forward-looking, goal-orientated and helps clients achieve positive results in their lives and move from where they are right now to where they want to be.

As coaches, we are trained to listen, to observe and to customize our approach to individual client needs.

I believe that every person is naturally creative, whole and resourceful and it is my job to provide support to enhance the skills, resources and creativity that you, the client, already have.

Who can benefit from Family Recovery Life Coaching?

Anyone who has been impacted or affected by someone else's addiction, whether that person is actively using, in treatment or in recovery.
If you feel that your life is no longer your own and you want to regain your sanity.
You want to become your loved one's best chance of getting into recovery or staying in recovery.
You are fearful that your loved one is on a pathway to addiction or you are not sure whether they are an addict but you want to know how best to support them.

I work with families of substance and behavioural addiction to help them:

  • Drop the judgments they have been holding onto so tightly.

  • Find the right words to communicate without blame, anger or judgment.

  • Stop obsessing about their loved one's addiction.

  • Stop trying to fix someone else's life.

  • Get the inner calm and peace they thought they had lost for ever.

  • Start enjoying their lives regardless of their addict's choices.

  • Learn more about addiction and the skills and tools to move their lives from chaos to calm.

  • Learn how to contribute to their addict's recovery, not their addiction.

  • Set and stick to healthy boundaries.

What benefits can be expected?


My clients tell me they feel supported in a safe and nurturing environment, and no longer feel alone in struggling with their loved one's addiction. They grow in confidence when they learn to take the focus off the addict and put it back onto themselves (self-care) which in turn causes less stress and anxiety. They learn new ways to communicate, which lead to improved relationships. With their newfound clarity around addiction, they can begin to make healthier choices for themselves and around the addict. From being enmeshed in addiction and the addict, their horizons now expand; they re-find their passion for life and they feel able to start to look to the future, with time to reflect on what they really want and how to get it. They learn how to overcome barriers and obstacles and find ways to solve problems previously thought unsolvable. Chaos is replaced by calm.

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